Sunday, September 16, 2007

DEJA VU

Is there such a thing as too much happiness?

I believe there is.

And when a person becomes too happy, the happiness is taken away.

Just when I thought that I could finally be a real grandmother, not just a signature on the bottom of a birthday or Christmas card, I get the news that things are not working out between Gabe and his fiancee... his now 'ex' fiancee, the mother of his new born baby boy.  He is heart broken.

So am I.

I want my son to find true happiness.  I thought he had.  I want him to know the magic of raising his own family.  I guess it just wasn't meant to be... not now, not yet.

I want to be the best grandmother I can but I can't help but feel cheated.

Was it really just last night that I posted those beautiful pictures of Gabe and his new family?

If you can't find anything nice to blog about, don't blog.

Excuse me while I don't blog.

25 comments:

deshelestraci said...

Words are not enough!  I am so sad and sorry for you and Gabe!  
Big hugs,
Traci

pixiedustnme said...

I am so sad, I cannot imagine what it feels like to have these beautiful children so far removed from your life.  Sending hugs your way - although I know they are not enough to ease a heart that is breaking for you and for Gabe.

fogspinner said...

I'm so sorry. Maybe they will work things out.

Your family is in my thoughts.

ljat1 said...

I'm sorry to hear about your troubles.  I know it's a difficult thing to go through.  We were lucky in that our son and DIL were able to work out their differences and so far have kept their family together.  It's so hard to be so involved and yet so helpless, I know.  My prayers go out to you and yours.  God Bless, Linda

astaryth said...

Awwww, Hun! {{{{{Hugs}}}}} And Poor Gabe..... I'm so sorry.

princesssaurora said...

Oh no Jody... I am so sorry... {{{ Gabe, Jo, family }}}  It will happen... it will...

be well,
Dawn
http://journals.aol.com/princesssaurora/CarpeDiem/

jlyn0809 said...

Oh my gosh...I am so sorry.  I went straight to the picture blog before I read this one.  It just goes to show how life can change in an instant.  Hopefully they can work it out.

cyn4mc2856 said...

I'm sooooo sorry!  I understand how this feels.

You and your family will be in my thoughts & prayers.

Cindy

midwestvintage said...

 I am so sorry about it.  Hopefully there is some hope that they will get together again?   I want you to be a part of that beautiful baby as you would be a wonderful grandmother.  {{{{{hugs}}}}}}



                           Julie

dhga30047 said...

I'm sorry.  Maybe, just maybe its a rough patch...maybe they'll get it together.  In the meanwhile...you can be the best grandmother you can be...  :-)

mumma4evr said...

I am soo sorry!!!!
Becky

mpnaz58 said...

I am so sorry, for you, for Gabe, for that beautiful baby.  No matter how involved you try to be, there is always something missing from/for THAT grandbaby.  I don't know how else to explain it.  I have my precious Anthony, who is a loving, adorable, smart 4 year old.  But because my son, his father, and his mother, are no longer "together", I rarely see him.  He doesn't even know me as nana...well, he does, but not like my other grandkids.  It breaks my heart.  Anthony's mom argues and throws fits about anything and everything.  I'm not saying my son is perfect (or he wouldn't be in this situation), but he does support him, and visitation is granted every other week.  A child shouldn't have to live like that.  Sad.
xoxo ~Myra

swmpgrly said...

I hope it all works out and if not they come to a fair agreement on raising the children. I am so sorry to hear that sad news.

coelha said...

((((HUGS TO YOU))))  I'm so sorry about this news..  I'm hoping that they will resolve whatever is going on with the relationship; hoping for the best!  You have every right to be down!  :(  Julie

tendernoggle said...

DON'T GIVE UP HOPE...THEY CAN ALWAYS GET BACK TOGETHER...YU KNOW HOW YOUNG FOLKS ARE...
GOD BLESS,
LOVE YA,
CARLENE

sdoscher458 said...

Kids. More grey hairs. I was sorry to hear this, my two sons have had problems finding girls that actually wanted a deeper relationship.  Sometimes I have to wonder about our younger generation of women, no staying power? People who have been married a while know they ocassionally will have bumps in the road, you just have to coast over them for awhile.  Not pick up your toys and run. Sorry Dorn, wish Gabe my best...love, Sandi

jckfrstross said...

oh no praying they can work it out and be a family

Deb

ktkamanski said...

So sorry you and yours are feeling this pain. Hopefully in time things will work themselves out and happiness will return once again. Take care of you,
Katie

chat2missie said...

I'm so sorry!
Missie

lazarai said...

What a huge bummer!! Gabe deserves happiness...and so do YOU!! Hopefully, you can have some kind of relationship with Kim so Ryott can get to know his Grand-oompas!!

So sorry, Dorn. Hang in there,
Carol

mutualaide said...

No, there is no such thing as too much happiness.  There is such a thing as too much suckiness.  I am so sorry Dorn ... for Gabe, for your family and for the grandoompas.  {{{hugs}}}

wumzels2 said...

i never got around to congratulating you on the new baby.  now, i see the pain you feel.  either way, this child is still your grandchild.  and he is beautiful.  he can live in your heart with or without kim being in your life.  cherish the knowledge he is yours no matter what.  i wish you and your family much happiness, for no one can ever have too much.

love and prayers,

regina

lacaza3 said...

I hear you saying how frustrated and sad you are that your son and kim arent getting married...You long to be invovled in your grandbabies life and watch them grow and you feel cheated.. I pray that things get better and no matter what happens with gabe and kim that you get more one on one time with your grandbabies...
Donna in TEXAS

ceilisundancer said...

I am very sorry to hear about Gabe and his now ex-fiance.
It's not the same, but coparenting CAN happen.  I do hope that, ultimately, after the pain can subside some / more (unless they work things out!), that they DO coparent positively.  Your grandbaby will still know you.  And Gabe.  Sorry to hear of the smack of icky reality stuff after the happy stuff.  

hestiahomeschool said...

Shit. He is such a fine young man.  I hope that things work out. Maybe she is just afraid...

love, Kas